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leslie — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 21:32:44 -0000

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Re: Why you should date yourself before you date anyone else

Tyler Liddie — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:10:48 -0000

I would like to go on a date lol I been dating myself for a good 20 years on and off with a few ladies lol
Good read

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Tyler Liddie — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:07:05 -0000

I want a kiss! :) Waiting for the video to drop! Bless

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kisses — Sat, 06 Jul 2013 11:47:07 -0000

Lololol

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Tinera — Wed, 03 Jul 2013 21:57:39 -0000

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Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

John — Sat, 08 Jun 2013 00:39:09 -0000

I agree in some ways. i held back for several months to really let my heart open up to someone who said i was emotionally unavailable. She told me to love her and "risk a broken heart". When I did finally express my love for her and thought we'd be soul mates, months leading into over a year of heartache and heartbreak for me followed. She had a sort of fling with another and then finally she met someone else who "lived closer to her". So I was heartbroken. But from the pint of view of theis blog - i at least became emotionally available.

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

kari — Sat, 25 May 2013 18:15:48 -0000

Wow... its like you looked into my head and were writing about me and the EU man in my life. Says he hasnt found "the woman he cant live without" . 20 years after his divorce and no committed relationships! Big red flag from the first conversation! I am ony 5 months into this on/off relationship. I use that term very loosely. We are more off than on because he lives 11 hours away... but manages to give me enough to keep me hooked. Only 5 months in and I know there is only heart ache in store for me..I can still walk away with minimal damage & I know I should
....but I cant get him out of my head.

Re: 5 signs your significant other is in it for the long haul

kisses88 — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:02:11 -0000

It is normal for a guy or girl to find another person attractive, but at the same time it is disrespectful in my opinion to literally go out of your way to check out another person. If i see a guy that is handsome, I think simply that and nothing more, because to me my boyfriend is the hottest guy ever and its like those now what commercials, oh your hot----now what. What else can you bring to the table? And that's where your significant other comes in, he or she should be all of that and a bag of chips, so if your significant others makes an effort to check out other women, then he's not in it for the long haul. He wouldn't disrespect you like that you would be his main priority. It is okay to think someone looks nice, but i dont seek that out and i dont notice other guys as much anymore, because i am in it for the long haul. Hope this helps. Thanks for reading Inem!!

Re: 5 signs your significant other is in it for the long haul

Inem Melody — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 10:48:02 -0000

hey! i have a question about #4. I've been told that guys can be in it for the long haul but still check out other ladies and stuff, because they're dudes and that's what dudes do. THoughts?
also, does the guy have to exhibit all of these things or some, or one of them?

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 05:41:22 -0000

I&#39m an emotionally unavailable person.... but I don&#39t really fit into your description..... the reason I&#39m being like that is because I don&#39t want to be taken for a ride..... I also had my fair share of problems with woman and as I grew up.... I found out that nobody is responsible to your feelings, only yourself..... now that I have met an amazing woman but deeply conflicted whether I should still maintaining my emotional unavailability.... as I&#39m not sure whether she&#39s also taking me for a ride.....

Re: Why Jealousy Has No Place In A Relationship

Kisses — Thu, 22 Nov 2012 01:34:48 -0000

hey your life isn&#39t over hun, every experience whether good or bad is a learning experience, i am not upset about the hurt i felt in the past cause it all made me stronger, who are you? email me and I&#39m here if you want to talk

Re: Why Jealousy Has No Place In A Relationship

Anonymous — Sun, 11 Nov 2012 16:37:51 -0000

Hey this is an old friend i am sorry 2 years ago u made a prediction about my relationship I was wrong and you was right I have a mind on my own I should of not let her control what I do or say to you. I messed my whole life up and now my life is over karma is a b!tch but swift and fair :(

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Sat, 20 Oct 2012 06:21:29 -0000

I happen to come across your blog and this post hits me down to my very core. What I felt was, you&#39re like trying to read and express my heart and mind.
I dated an emotionally unavailable guy on and off for two years and it was an emotional roller coaster ride. The most important lesson I&#39ve learned was to realize my self worth, loving myself first and foremost before loving someone else. It was a difficult thing accepting that maybe we were not really meant for each other, in fact I&#39m still in the process of letting go. I really like what you&#39ve added to your letter telling him that you want your kisses back because that is exactly what I would like to tell him. lol... Thanks for this post.

Re: Why Jealousy Has No Place In A Relationship

Kimberly Cruz — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 23:48:01 -0000

This opened my mind to another point of view.....thanks Leslie! I see your point.

Re: Why Jealousy Has No Place In A Relationship

Kimberly Cruz — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 23:47:01 -0000

This opened my mind to another point of view.....thanks Leslie! I see your point.

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 19:17:59 -0000

I am just wondering if being Emotionally Unavailable is a permanent mental illness or if there is hope for the man to change?

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Lea — Wed, 19 Sep 2012 21:21:42 -0000

I could have very well written this letter as well, cause that is exactly what I would tell to my ex.

He was keeping making promises and future plans, but he was never there for me. Always busy, always texting instead of calling, always turning off the mobile when he suited. It was always all about HIM. He decided everything cause all had to be made "his way" or he would be feeling caged.

Finally he broke it off when it was time to make the promises real. Big coward, such a waste of time...

And now he says he wants someone new and that his feelings for me were never deep. He says I&#39m perfect, and that he wants to find someone like me, but not me. Lovely confused guy! I was there already, and no one is like me!

But he never wanted to love me, he doesnt want to love anyone but himself.

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 21:37:18 -0000

Just got dumped uncerimoniously this weekend by a man I was involved with for a year. As he was the first man I dated seriously since my divorce, I lacked the experience to perhaps note some red flags that may have been obvious to others in the beginning. However, as the relationship went on, it was constant yo-yo, push and pull me, leave me hanging, withdraw after every time we had a bonding experience. And the control--dear god, he was the master of control, at telling me what we could and couldn&#39t discuss, when we&#39d see each other, etc etc. I could probably count on both hands the number of times he ever called me instead of texting in the year we were a couple.

When we were together, he was loving and very physically affectionate, and would tell me that he was in love with me. We&#39d have wonderful times. Then he&#39d more or less disappear for 2 or 3 or 4 days, even though he considered us to be in a "serious" relationship. I spent so much of the relationship feeling hurt, lonely, and utterly confused.

I knew he had some baggage from his marriage, from which he&#39d been divorced for 6 years, but I had no idea to what extent. It meant that he accused me of all the things he considered HER to be--controlling, manipulative, deceptive, and on and on. It was absolutely exhausting trying to prove myself to this man while he play-acted out the way he WISHED he&#39d treated his wife. Ultimately, he broke up with me because I went out for a "girls night out" to a club for dancing--totally innocent, but apparently enraged him with insecurity and jealousy, and he broke up with me by changing his facebook status. After a year together. Slap in the face.

I&#39m tending to a seriously broken heart now, though I realize it&#39s best that it&#39s over. As I look back at all the pain I went through with him, I can only hope that the lessons I learned from this will somehow make it worthwhile someday.

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 05:11:34 -0000

I just ended a 3 year relationship with a 64 year old unavilable emotional man. Life was only about him and what he wanteed to do. Sex was selfish and everything he did was selfish. Even though he did do nice things for me, he gained from them as well. He is still married, wife lives in a different country. She came to america last year, I caught him with her, broke up with him. He chased me for 3m months, I finally gave into him.
He then retired and took off traveling without me, he just used me to get his mail, take care of his business and sex.
I am off for the summer and he planned a summer vaction for 3 months without me.
He told me he needs his freedom, independence and alone trip. Last year he complained I had to work.
I know now if he loved me he would travel when I can and he never would plan a trip without me.
I just hope he never contacts me again. Many websites, say they always do.
I want to move on, but it still hurts me.

Re: Why you should date yourself before you date anyone else

Anonymous — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 03:35:06 -0000

Yea your right I should do that but at the same time I dont want to get blown off but then again I do deserve it. But I guess thats life God made us supreme beings. Gave us the skill to build, and destroy somewhat of god&#39s power but at the same time he throw in lessons, karma, and regret. That is human nature I build a friendship and I made a mistake and destroyed a friendship and now karma came in and I am regretting then comes the phase of learning a lesson and adapting to it. My friends call me Trill

Re: Playing the field- Is it really okay???

Kisses — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 21:18:43 -0000

agree with you 100%

Re: Why you should date yourself before you date anyone else

Kisses — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 21:17:30 -0000

well "old friend" I am glad that you have learned from your mistakes and trying to do better. Definitely don&#39t dwell on the past, we all make mistakes. It is how you handle your mistakes that really define your character. It sounds to me like you have definitely grown as a person from dealing with your past relationship. As for the friendship you lost, maybe you can contact them and let them know how you feel. Sometimes you do just have to move on, but i think if it&#39s a friendship worth saving you should at least reach out if you haven&#39t already done so. By the way who are you? email me at iwantmykissesback@gmail.com

I really appreciate you reading : )

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Kisses — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 21:11:22 -0000

In response to the comment left anonymously on July 7th, 2012, it sounds to me like this man definitely cares about you but has a lot of baggage that he is still carrying and carrying over into your relationship with him. You deserve better. You should not be blamed for what he went through and he sounds like he is just playing with your emotions because he still hasn&#39t figured out his own. He seems scared, but that&#39s not your job to have to convince him that you are genuinely there for him. He even stated that you are the only woman who ever genuinely cared, so he knows this and still he is choosing to run after contacting you in the first place. You deserve better. A lot of people get hurt but you shouldn&#39t have to pay for that not once, but twice. I know it will probably be hard but coming from a woman who has dealt with an emotionally unavailable person I think that you should move on, because there is someone out there who won&#39t play with your emotions and who will embrace the future and present instead of lingering on the past. Thank you so much for reading.

Kisses

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Kisses — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 21:07:17 -0000

in response to the first comment posted anonymously after jersey campbell, i don&#39t think it is a good idea to want to lose track of everything, it makes me wonder if you were hurt and so because you don&#39t want that to happen again you are choosing to hide yourself and then embed yourself in other feelings to avoid a repeat of the past, if that is the case i think you should allow yourself to feel,until you do that you won&#39t have the opportunity to ever become one with someone else- which you definitely deserve---trust me

Re: Letter to the emotionally unavailable men of the world

Anonymous — Sat, 07 Jul 2012 23:33:21 -0000

Wow all i can say is i am in exactly this boat the blogger describes....4 days ago he split up with me claiming he just couldnt commit to me as he would get too clingy and therefore couldnt acheive all the other things in life like travel, better work prospects etc. I know this is all a cop out and this is the second chance i gave this man. He found me the second time and came to me so i naturally thought he wanted to at least see. Turns out 5 months down the track it was never really what he wanted. I asked why knowing he did not want this did he persue it. His answer cause im the only woman that has shown she has ever genuinely cared. When questioned as to why thorw a good thing away he simply stated that he just prefers the simple life and not to have a fit a woman into his life as he clings to much. His ex wife treated him dreadful for 7 years till he got out. I feel im being punished for what she did. Its not fair but a real lesson learnt. And this blog has been helpful. Gosh glad im not alone in putting myself out there only to get burnt, in my case twice. :(